I am once again seeing clients face to face, as well as continuing to offer video sessions via Zoom.
Hello. I'm Sally Piper, an experienced, qualified and registered counsellor.
There can be times when life doesn't feel 'right' or we feel weighed down by something. We may lead busy lives and tend to prioritise other's needs, sometimes losing sight of our own. We may be experiencing confusion, anxiety, loneliness, depression, stress, loss, bereavement or relationship difficulties and be in emotional distress, but may not wish to 'burden' others and perhaps believe we should 'soldier on'. Motivation, enthusiasm and joy are often absent qualities at such times.
Whatever may be impacting you, counselling provides the time and space to prioritise your needs and explore and understand what is going on for you. As a counsellor offering counselling therapy for Bishop's Waltham, Hedge End, Fareham, Eastleigh, and surrounding areas, I can help you find your best way forward, overcome problems and adversities you may be facing, and feel more in control. I can work with you to identify your strengths and build on your resources, explore and make sense of past and current events and recurring patterns in your life, and help you understand and express your feelings more fully.
I offer counselling to individuals aged 18 and over and my client base tends to be equally split between men and women. I have experience working with a wide age range, as well as with a wide range of difficulties. I can provide face-to-face, on-line and telephone counselling.
I have had clients return years later if a new challenge has arisen in their lives.
Although this list is not exhaustive, I work with the following:
- Panic attacks
- Low self-esteem/low self-confidence
- Low mood
- Loss and bereavement
- Relationship difficulties
- Work related issues
- Life changes
I offer a private, safe, professional, confidential and accepting environment for us to work together, always respecting that you are the expert on yourself, although you may not currently feel this. I will be genuinely interested in you, helping you to explore what your experiences mean to you and how you are impacted by them. I will regard it as a privilege to be able to accompany you through your process at a pace that is right for you, treating you with compassion and respecting your dignity at all times.
My clients have felt able to tell me things that they have never shared with anyone and may have held onto for many years. Although sometimes scary, bringing things out into the open can feel like a weight has been lifted and can make a huge difference.
At its heart counselling is about attentive listening, so that you feel heard and understood. It may be the only time when you do not need to hide your feelings away, dress them up, or worry how others may react or be affected.
I believe everyone has an innate capacity for change and growth. If you want to make changes in your life, I will support you and work alongside you.
I am an experienced, qualified and registered counsellor offering counselling therapy for Bishop's Waltham, Hedge End, Fareham, Eastleigh and surrounding areas.
If you have any questions about my practice or would like to make an appointment, please text or phone me on 07938 218967, or click here to email. I will be happy to hear from you and aim to respond within 24 hours, or next working day.
Registered member of the BACP practicing in accordance with their Ethical Framework.
I came across this image and wondered how many of us can relate to it:
We can sometimes overlook the importance of sleep to our health and wellbeing, with sleep not prioritised and often compromised by the habits of modern life. We may also have a lot of demands on us, which can make prioritising sleep difficult. However, regular, quality sleep is as essential to our health as good nutrition and regular physical activity.
Sleep plays a vital part in the processing of our emotions and disturbed sleep can affect our mood and our performance and, consequently, have a negative impact on our relationships.
By prioritising sleep and embracing strategies to improve our sleep, we can improve our physical, mental and social wellbeing. This article provides tips on promoting good sleep, as well as on how to get back to sleep after waking during the night.
Research carried out as part of the recent Time To Talk Day revealed that:
1 in 4 UK adults surveyed who have experienced a worsening of their mental health for the first time during the pandemic have yet to have a first conversation about it; 1 in 8 who were already struggling with a mental health problem have not spoken to anyone about their mental health since the pandemic started.
Despite huge progress, this shows that there is still stigma around opening up about how we are feeling, or asking for help, making it difficult to have that first conversation. We may feel embarrassed and worry that we will be negatively judged. Protecting and supporting others during the pandemic may also have led to feeling guilty about taking care of our own needs, maybe believing that we ‘have not had it as bad as …’ and therefore should be ok. Neglecting self-care can have a significant impact on our mental health.
Talking to a trusted family member, friend, neighbour, colleague or a qualified counsellor gives others the opportunity to have a better understanding of what we are going through. Talking can help us feel less alone, more able to cope and more able to seek professional support if we need to.
Friday, 10 September, is World Suicide Prevention Day. Global organisations come together annually to raise awareness about how we can support ourselves and each other better and reduce the stigma around mental ill health, encourage help-seeking and ultimately reduce the number of suicides.
The Stay Alive app is a free suicide prevention resource for the UK, promoted by many organisations, including the NHS, and downloaded over 250,000 times. It provides resources, tools and information for anyone experiencing suicidal thoughts, or concerned about someone who may be at risk. As well as providing links to local and national crisis support helplines, it provides strategies for staying safe and managing feelings of overwhelm, a safety plan for completion by the person considering suicide, and a Life Box where photos, videos and memories can be stored as a reminder of reasons to stay alive.
Alternatively, for those who prefer not to use the app, the Find Help Now page provides information and signposts resources.
This is a challenging and surreal time for all of us and we may feel fearful and unsafe. Although it is important to stay informed, we need to take care in this modern, media-filled world to protect ourselves from becoming saturated with information about this pandemic. This may increase our anxiety and stress levels, lead to feeling overwhelmed, and potentially to withdrawal and depression.
There are some strategies which may help us during this period:
Connection with others is vital for our mental health. We need to be seen, be heard, to share our thoughts, feelings, laughter, fears and hopes. Talking on the phone or using platforms such as Skype, Facetime, WhatsApp and Zoom can help us connect with individuals or groups, especially important if we live alone.
A lack of predictability can be unsettling. Creating a schedule and structuring our day and our week by putting in plans to connect with others, work, do chores, eat meals, etc. can help.
The normal reaction to a stressful event is to get moving – our ‘Fight/Flight’ reaction. Our options are limited at this time, but it is important to use this energy by doing some activity with our bodies – exercising, household chores, dancing, etc.
We need to identify what calms us – listening to music, practicing yoga, mindfulness, meditation – and do more of these things to help reduce our anxiety and stress levels.
This can also be a time to explore, rediscover and connect with our creativity through writing, playing an instrument, drawing, cooking, etc.
Hopefully these strategies may help us through these uncertain times. However, we and those around us are currently at greater risk of getting into destructive behaviours. The following organisations can offer support:
Refuge - National domestic abuse helpline for women and children
Respect - Domestic abuse support for men
Galop - Domestic abuse support for LGBT+
Drinkaware - Advice about alcohol and isolation
If you are in despair, Samaritans provides support 24 hours a day.
Talking about our feelings is not a sign of weakness.
"It is indeed a radical act of love just to sit down and be quiet for a time by yourself."